We often spend our lives in an isolated bubble, letting different issues and causes pass us by until WHAM, something happens in our lives. A parent gets sick with Alzheimer’s so we start fund raising for that cause, a family member contracts Cancer, we plan a sponsored 10k and get a sponsor form out, a relative comes out as Gay, our perception changes overnight.
My experience of homosexuality and many in the church is just that. As soon as a family member comes out as Gay, judgment gets clouded, scriptural workarounds are looked for, excuses are made, “surely this is not as bad as all that”, and secular views start to creep in.
Let me tell you something from the heart. You are not helping your relative. You may feel like you are being ultra-supportive and that you are surrounding them with much needed love but that’s not what God calls you to do. Yes of course God wants you to love, we are called to love each other but we are also called to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15), we are called to restore in the Spirit of gentleness (Galatians 6:1) and to be imitators of God (Ephesians 5:1-33).
Now being Imitators of God, that’s a tall order and firstly it means you have to fully understand God’s word, how else can you imitate his ways? It means spending time soaking in God’s word and seeking his counsel, it means turning from the thoughts and ideas of man and seeking God’s wisdom and becoming aware of what you believe, why you believe it and what that means for all your relationships. Only when you are walking in alignment with God and his word can you hope to help others to find their alignment with him. In this instance it means really asking God what does he teach on homosexuality and allowing yourself to be taken by him on a journey through scripture to seek his answer.
I implore you not to do as my family did, burying their head in the sand and allowing me to carry on down a treacherous path for most of my adult life, don’t roll over and hand over your relative to the enemy, fight for them like you’ve never fought before.
Seek God in this, the Holy Spirit will open up times and places for conversations, take advantage of these. Show love, show your love and show God’s love but do not compromise on God’s truth, it’s the truth that ultimately will set them free. Never stop praying, never stop blessing them with love and support, become an imitator of God (through reading the Bible you’ll understand his ways, his plan and his purpose).
This doesn’t mean every conversation has to be about faith but through love and a non-compromising stance the message will get through loud and clear, one day they WILL thank you for it.