Thanks to Kris Vallotton for a great post on his Blog from Ken Williams on Gay Pride – certainly worth a read
Talking to your kids about sex is so important, if you’re not talking about it then who are they listening to? I have added a link below to a great article by Kris Vallotton. Whilst this article doesn’t specifically cover how you talk to kids about homosexuality, it’s a great guide and starting point. Be prepared for these conversations to be quite challenging and have your biblical perspective and answers ready.
Wanted to share this poem I wrote today, encouraging Christians to be bold about speaking out. I was inspired to write this after yet again seeing a TV interview accusing the church of homophobia. When will we have the courage and boldness to stand up and be counted as Christians who believe and are obedient to God’s word? It’s not homophobia to speak out in love and truth.
Truth and justice, send forth your Spirit, where are the loyal, where are those who do right? Where are those who are not deceived, those who have openly received your word, where’s the respect, where are the obedient, stand up, move out of the darkness, the Lord is your light, stand up for all that is good and right, do not be disgraced and put to shame, claim the love of God, claim his forgiveness and turn your witness back to his saving grace, fear him as you seek his face, there is no one like him, we are all that are left of his chosen people, come, bring your offering to our King, see that justice is done, let mercy be your first concern, learn to humbly submit and obey your God, guard your thoughts, protect your mind, bind his word on your heart, fasten his words around your neck, don’t let the world affect your stand, let God’s hand guide you, let his love fill you, we will never change this world by staying silent, don’t relent, don’t be content with mediocre, for sure that’s how Satan will choke us, church stand up, arise, fix your eyes firmly on your God, the truth is what will set us free, not liberality, stand up, unite, hold fast to God’s teaching, courageously be bold in your public speaking, for God is not seeking to hurt or shame, God is not looking to pile on the blame, his desire that we speak truth in love, his desire that not one of us be lost, he is the Lord, he is gathering his people to bring them home, the lame and the outcasts, the lost, no matter the cost he gives us the courage to speak about justice, to speak of sin, the Lord is on your side, no harm will come near, filled with his Spirit speak without fear
How I wish I had watched this video a long time ago! If you are unsure about God’s view on sexual sin, this video brings a strong message of love and support but most of all of truth. Please do take some time to watch it.
It was very frustrating this morning to hear a journalist comment ” I know a lot of Christians who don’t believe homosexuality is a sin”.
Put this into context, the debate was about Tim Farron, leader of the Liberal Democrats who refuses to answer the question, does he think homosexuality is a sin. Tim is a Christian politician and avoids the direct question by answering that we are all sinners.
My frustration though is that Tim cannot guarantee that the Christian community will back him because the Christian community is divided. I would urge him to answer in truth, yes I do believe that homosexuality is a sin. This doesn’t mean he would condemn homosexuals, make policies against homosexuality or be homophobic in any way. Indeed, as a Christian if he lives by the Bible he would be all out to love as Jesus did, so he would almost certainly be as supportive, if not more supportive than a non-Christian politician.
Speaking the truth is not wrong, judging is wrong. Tim should feel free to speak God’s truth but also deserves to know that Christians within this country will support him with love and prayers as he is bold enough to speak out.
We are called not to be ashamed of the Gospel:
2 Timothy 1:8 – So do not be ashamed of the testimony about our Lord or of me his prisoner. Rather, join with me in suffering for the gospel, by the power of God
Romans 1:16 – For I am not ashamed of the gospel, because it is the power of God that brings salvation to everyone who believes: first to the Jew, then to the Gentile.
Are you sure you are reflecting God’s word in a truthful and loving manner? Are you standing up for Gospel truths or scared to not conform to secular norms? Let’s support Tim and other prominent Christians as they are obedient to God. Let’s pray that as they speak the truth in love God, will use their words to effect change, to open eyes and to open doors.
I was reflecting yesterday on the fact that so many Christians (and non-Christians) will say that they are unsure about whether homosexuality is a sin because “Jesus never spoke about it”. Today I discovered the scripture that turns that argument on its head!
- Mark 7:20-23 – He went on: “What comes out of a person is what defiles them. For it is from within, out of a person’s heart, that evil thoughts come—sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance and folly. All these evils come from inside and defile a person.”
I suppose the argument that will be thrown back at me is that Homosexuality in a loving relationship is not sexual immorality. But think of it this way. The Jews, who Jesus was talking to, knew the Old Testament, they knew the law and they knew what it said in Leviticus 18 and 22 about homosexuality. In their eyes homosexuality was clearly sexual immorality, Jesus did not have to spell this out to them.
- Leviticus 18:22 – You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination.”
- Leviticus 20:13 – “If there is a man who lies with a male as those who lie with a woman, both of them have committed a detestable act;
I believe that Jesus wants us all to see that the choices we make are what defiles us. Sometimes those choices are influenced by external factors. I for one used to tell people that I was born gay. It is only now that Jesus has saved me and I have had time to work this through that I can see the things that happened in my life that pushed me towards women. I was not created gay, I was created in God’s image. I was scarred along the way and I made my choices, that does not mean they were right or pleasing to God.
Jesus is clear about God’s purpose for us in marriage (Matthew 19:5-6) a man is to be joined to a woman.
Whilst Jesus was never recorded as saying homosexuality is a sin, that does not mean it is not a sin. The Bible, God’s word, clearly tells us otherwise and I believe Jesus too tells us quite clearly in Mark 7 that we are defiled by immoral sexual choices which includes men sleeping with other men and women sleeping with other women.
We often spend our lives in an isolated bubble, letting different issues and causes pass us by until WHAM, something happens in our lives. A parent gets sick with Alzheimer’s so we start fund raising for that cause, a family member contracts Cancer, we plan a sponsored 10k and get a sponsor form out, a relative comes out as Gay, our perception changes overnight.
My experience of homosexuality and many in the church is just that. As soon as a family member comes out as Gay, judgment gets clouded, scriptural workarounds are looked for, excuses are made, “surely this is not as bad as all that”, and secular views start to creep in.
Let me tell you something from the heart. You are not helping your relative. You may feel like you are being ultra-supportive and that you are surrounding them with much needed love but that’s not what God calls you to do. Yes of course God wants you to love, we are called to love each other but we are also called to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15), we are called to restore in the Spirit of gentleness (Galatians 6:1) and to be imitators of God (Ephesians 5:1-33).
Now being Imitators of God, that’s a tall order and firstly it means you have to fully understand God’s word, how else can you imitate his ways? It means spending time soaking in God’s word and seeking his counsel, it means turning from the thoughts and ideas of man and seeking God’s wisdom and becoming aware of what you believe, why you believe it and what that means for all your relationships. Only when you are walking in alignment with God and his word can you hope to help others to find their alignment with him. In this instance it means really asking God what does he teach on homosexuality and allowing yourself to be taken by him on a journey through scripture to seek his answer.
I implore you not to do as my family did, burying their head in the sand and allowing me to carry on down a treacherous path for most of my adult life, don’t roll over and hand over your relative to the enemy, fight for them like you’ve never fought before.
Seek God in this, the Holy Spirit will open up times and places for conversations, take advantage of these. Show love, show your love and show God’s love but do not compromise on God’s truth, it’s the truth that ultimately will set them free. Never stop praying, never stop blessing them with love and support, become an imitator of God (through reading the Bible you’ll understand his ways, his plan and his purpose).
This doesn’t mean every conversation has to be about faith but through love and a non-compromising stance the message will get through loud and clear, one day they WILL thank you for it.
I really enjoyed reading this article and would recommend all Christians read this balanced view on talking God’s truth.
Oh and the answer to the question is clearly YES, God loves us all 🙂
Yesterday the Church of England met once again to discuss the topic of gay marriage. Sometimes we only hear from those from one extreme or the other. However, I think Sam Allberry explains himself here with truth and amazing dignity – please watch what is being said to be – “A Two-Minute Clip on Homosexuality Every Christian Should Watch”
Just saw this and felt compelled to share.
Draw your own conclusions, what’s deceiving you?
I gave my testimony in church last night and it’s always a blessing to give God the Glory. However yet again I was disappointed when a member of the congregation came to me and started talking about her gay friends who had faith. She was telling me how it was good that God had told me this was his path for me but that God calls each of us differently, basically that they were happy to continue in their physical relationship as they felt this was God’s calling on them.
So now I am going to be blunt. Sin is sin. God doesn’t tell me it’s a sin and you it’s not a sin, God doesn’t play games like that. Sin is sin, I was blessed that God revealed the truth of his word to me and the Holy Spirit convicted me of my need to change and I am now able to live fully in the light.
Don’t get caught up in church politics and those who seek to dilute sin. Don’t be deceived by those who would tell you that God picks and chooses who the sin applies to, trust God and God alone in your decision making, ask him and he will reveal the truth to you.
- Proverbs 28:13 People who conceal their sins will not prosper, but if they confess and turn from them, they will receive mercy.
- 1 John 1:7-9 But if we are living in the light, as God is in the light, then we have fellowship with each other, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, cleanses us from all sin. If we claim we have no sin, we are only fooling ourselves and not living in the truth. But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness.
I’m giving my testimony next Sunday and I suppose it’s true to say that for a brief while I allowed the enemy to get into my head, “be careful, you don’t want to upset or offend anyone”. Speaking to a trusted friend she quickly corrected that lie and sent me an article on strongholds. Oh yes, Satan you are not going to shut me up, I am going to speak and I am going to speak from my overflow, from my passion, and I am going to share my story for the Glory of God. The Lord is building his church and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it. If I offend through speaking God’s truth, so be it, but my prayer is that through speaking the truth I will help others to see God’s amazing grace and love and how they too can receive this for themselves.
Unfortunately there are still people in the church who don’t see homosexuality as a sin, in fact some see those who speak out about it as homophobic. But I see it as speaking God’s truth and giving others an opportunity to see that by his Grace and his Grace alone we can be changed, we can overcome even the biggest obstacles in life to walk with him in obedience.
Matthew 16:18 – And I tell you that you are Peter and on this rock I will build my church, and the gates of Hades will not overcome it.